M a R r I a g E

"Marriage is a social union or legal contract between individuals that creates kinship. It is an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually intimate and sexual, are acknowledged by a variety of ways, depending on the culture or demographic. Such a union may also be called matrimony, while the ceremony that marks its beginning is usually called a wedding and the marital structure created is known as wedlock."


thats Wikipedia for you ! But what is marriage besides this? It is sharing of gifts, off course the guy gets the beating here... Cost of a mens wear hardly comes a quarter to womens wear when the gear shifts to branded/fashionable ones. What if the gift is not a garment, well Mrs. will be bedazzled by that 100 diamond necklace, while the Mr. can do with a beer mug! In case the Mr. asks for more, it could be that Ducati or the Opel, at times the BMW. But wait how can you get the BMW when you buy that 100 diamond necklace? LOLZ! 


Enough of leg pulling, I stop here. You tell me, about marriage. After a certain time its love and only love for yourself that makes you be in "love" with the partner. With time, Mrs. wants more comfort and security, while Mr. is slave to the comfort of the servants Mrs. has skillfully recruited! Call of the hour gets centered to the only offspring (may be more, keeping population explosion in mind I dread more than one per family!) and people forget they are living. Sacrifices take a front seat, with the subconscious mind of Mr. drooling with pride how great a father he is giving up on his pack of cigarettes for child's sake.  While the Mrs. is busy doing calculations of sleepless nights she spends (office tension! may be but it is not the main reason!!) fretting upon the child's education and health. Thus the battle ground which was tamed from the war crazy male and female species, gets new fuel.


Lets look at it from another angle, the love angle. Boy meets girl, girl blushes, boy smiles and "let there be love, there it is!" There after the male species does odd acts of bravery / chivalry (mostly blasphemy, atheists spare me, believe me I try to be one most of the times), while the girl enjoys his antics in wide eyed amusement. Then starts problems, "don't touch me in public" or "what is to fear when in love" to "Everything is fair in love and war"!
And there she elopes with the young charming prince (a pauper he will be, if not already)  and they live unhappily ever after. Wait it can be different, lets take the case of a software professional. He earns at least thousand times his age, may be some thousands more or less and believes he is king of the world! She is the confident young woman trying to prove the world wrong, by many of her antics (learnt from boyfriend earlier?). They get married, with or without family will, get a posh flat, new car (at least a motorcycle) and start a honeymoon (not in the literal sense) with all surroundings. then the Mr. goes onsite, may be the Mrs. and disconnects in between kills the relationship. But still they stick together as conjugated salary makes the world a better place.


Lets look at another angle to marriage, this marriage is between the He/She and work or fame. they get married young, much before they understand marriage. The Mr. does not have time to see the world behind books,while the Mrs. is busy with P.H.D. After a long time in their forties the realization comes that one is getting more and more detached from society, need someone near and dear to care for. Some don't realize and they call themselves "happy singles"! May be you can be happy alone, but it's difficult to swallow, as man being the first animal to form a society, invented culture, created so many sub species(groups called Hindu/Muslim/Christianity or may be Americans/Europeans/Indians) within Homo Sapiens in the process! Thus some people marry work, or a passion (some bikers have said to have the same emotional attachment to bikes as wives!) some go for the natural way of marrying a female/male. Human beings and their relationships are and can be as bizarre as the animal itself.
As and when insanity prevails with crazy ideas ... I will be back with a Pandora's box! Till then I'll wait for your feed back ... Enjoy!

Lost in Translation

The title is from the movie, but that is what I feel happens slowly in due course of life.No I didn't watch it, but public dissemination of information has made it so easy to know about things that you should experience for yourself. Take for example, WIKIPEDIA you name it, they have it! Well no one claims to have all ghosts in one basket, except for may be Aladin. Talk of Aladin, a curiosity creeps up my mind. What would I want if I was the owner of the magic lamp?
First thing I would want would be the lamp be anywhere but the genie should always be with me. I need a friend like the genie. What kind of a friend would you want to have? In case you think that friendship is a disguise and i want the genie for unfair advantage over other mortals, you are wrong, I would rather ask him to help others more than me. Kidding?. No kidding, this is what I would wish for!
How many time have you been at peace? felt happy? And how many times have you felt both? Helping others is a rare quality any animal possesses and we are no exception. The genie helping others is a good scene to see, ever wondered, how is it to be a genie?
Enough of questions, now answer time.
Well I'll leave it upto you lazy people to leave answers as comments, but the discussion on happiness and peace does not end. Crazy stuff, Insane vanities give me pleasure but after the adrenaline rush it is so lull, that it might kill me or you. Believe me, it is excruciating pain when you sleep with a dream and it floats away from you each night, an inch towards oblivion. The craziness and vanities attack and you die helplessly everyday. Confused? You should rather be, if you have understood any of this as well as if you didn't.

Just a Thought

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While you ponder on what this dots and dashes mean, let me share something with you.

As the name should suggest this is my scrap/scratch book where I put my heart out as well as my mind.

The Question is what should I choose, heart over mind or mind over heart ? You guys can suggest ... but then the problem is that I have to wait till you comment, and before that I should publish this blog.

How good it would be if you could see the ideas emanating form the heads (or is it minds) of different people we meet ... regularly or at the coffee shop where the person you meet through the eyes, takes a delicate sip, caring not to put your face in oblivion! Surrealistic if you think of my words (or is it phrases), then let me remind you all people are born poets/scientists/whatever that gets the tag of a genius. Over time we lose touch of it called fantasy, being with nature as and when the materialistic river sweeps over us, creating new banks and people ... may be civilizations!

Why does generation gap even exist ? Due to that river cutting through our lives. Before I sound like a sage, or a saint, let me make it clear, this is what I am seeing now. Lots of thoughts and ideas, creating a ruckus in my head (or is it heart) resulting in a panoramic fresco of disassociated scenarios. 

Coming back to the point of you suggesting me, lets assume no one comments and this being a crazy insane idea, I put forward a legacy of a place wherein one can chip in with any comment about the head or heart (which one? you better be the judge, alternatively we can discuss it as a thread may be!)

I am having a head ache now, may be I'll join all some time later. In the mean time let your imagination flow and drop in a comment or two about them.